Big Little Chop

I did a big little chop on June 12.  I had so much heat damage and I just had these limp ends.  I cut a bunch of it and now I'm struggling for styles. (I cut all of that damage off)

In an effort to throw away as many bottles as I can I'm going to get my routine down to just a few products.  I used to be a product junkie and this is because I could never figure out what worked for my hair so I would spend and spend and spend trying to figure out what works just right.

Carol's Daughter Curl Souffle and Aussie conditioner and Carol's Daughter Jamaican Black Castor Oil line seems to give me what I need.  It's so frustrating because my hair gets so dry so easily and we all know that's what breaks it off

Not to mention how thick my hair is.  I know some people aren't into hair typing and I get that because it leads to the belief that one product only works well with this type of hair and how it categorizes and separates women with curly and natural hair.

It frustrates me when people with non-nappy hair start to tell me about their humidity issues but you don't have a fitting in society issue.  That's why that Carol's Daughter commercial had such a blow-up.

Representation matters and that's why people try to downplay it or say it's not a big deal.  What people go through from other people doesn't hold a candle to what black women say to each other on the matter.

If you want to relax or straighten your hair, go for it but don't try to talk about me negatively or shame me for trying to find my way.

It's even more frustrating when people say to me, "I like your hair better that way."  What way?  You mean this fake hair I've sewn to my head to assimilate into the forefront of American standards of beauty so I don't have to worry if my hair is the reason why I didn't get the job.

Comments like that mean that it does matter how I wear my hair to SOME workplaces.  

If someone told you it was illegal for you to be yourself you'd be angry all the time too.  

In a 3-0 decision, the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals dismissed a cased brought by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission against a company that refused a hire a woman because she wouldn't cut off her locs.
According to the Wall Street Journal, Chastity Jones applied to work at Catastrophe Management Solutions in 2010 and was initially hired, but the role came with one condition. Jones was told that she'd have to cut off her locs in order to comply with the company's grooming policy. She refused to do so and the job offer was rescinded.

Judge Rules Banning Dreadlocks In The Workplace Is Not Discrimination

But having pink and purple hair isn't?  

I know people think they're giving me a compliment, once I was told I'd be "alright" (looking) if I had longer hair.  This is why I get angry when I get unsolicited suggestions on my appearance.

What if I retorted with a hey you'd look great if you dropped a few pounds?

Not quite the same since this is how my hair grows.  This is how I look naturally.  I'm glad to have a husband who has not only taken the time to understand the struggles of black women and their hair but also supports whatever I do or don't do to my hair (because "I'm beautiful no matter what I do to my hair.")

I know curly girls think they feel the struggle just because they don't have bone straight hair like other Caucasian women but you haven't been told that your hair reminds someone else "of slavery." The topic of Colorism is discussed on the Skool's In Podcast