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If you're considering going natural or you already have and you're tired of all the tutorials that tell you how to get your hair to look like this: When your hair really looks like this When I first went natural my hair was tight, kinky, coily and poofy, and I could not figure out why it was so hard and so poofy and how to make it hang. Here's the secret ingredient to making it soft and to make it hang. I check out these blogs daily: CurlyNikki Not only does her site serve as a portal to many other naturalistas she adds a mental aspect to the world of being natural that helps you not only get through the transition phase of going natural but how to deal with people after you've gone natural.  The site is also informative when it comes to just learning new hair styles and how popular natural hair is. YouTube Vlogs These 4a or 4b ladies have been really helpful on my natural hair care journey Naptural85 JerseyStylezz CharyJay She's not a 4a, but s

I hate it when people criticize science fiction for not being REAL science fiction.   What?  What is real science fiction?  I keep hearing it about my stories because people want me to explain the science behind stuff.  Here's a newsflash people.   It's not real. No one ever said, gee, I really wish Doc Brown would have really given us a lesson on how the flux capacitor works. You have to be kidding me; it's lights in a Y shape.  There is no scientific basis for how it works.  Absolutely ridiculous.  Then you have people who want to know how the space ship works.  I don't ever remember Star Wars explaining how C3PO worked, you just knew he worked.   It wasn't even until some thirty years later that Lucas even attempted to explain what the Force is.  You just knew it was a thing, you didn't need to know how it worked.  I just can't stand these unhappy people who decide to get a bug up their butts about anything.  Anything. Who e

It is like drowning, the undertow has taken you under and you realize that there was no manual to begin with.  Everything you do and every move you make will be the wrong move especially since you don't even know which way is up.  You don't know which way you've come from and you don't know where you are going. You're just expelling as much energy as you possibly can, you can hear the cacophony of sounds of people saying things to you with all kinds of background noise going on.  It's a jumbled mess of horrible advice; some you asked for and some you didn't. Some are shouted as loudly as they possibly could trying to persuade you for their own means and their own agendas, some are whispered because they have their own problems to deal with and instead of saying, I don't know, they make up answers they shouldn't be giving in the first place. You kick your legs and wave your arms doing so much work and going nowhere in the midst of the madness th

Freestyle Writing Doesn't Have to Make Sense and it Won't She got up to the sounds of happy children playing in the street.  She couldn't fight the inevitable; she had to get up today.  Nothing could satisfy what she wanted out of the day that awaited her.  It would be the same as every other day, manual labor.  Cleaning, moving things from here to there, watching television and searching through the classifieds.  Irritated with her status in life she began to think of all the awesome scenarios that would never ever happen to her. The first one was a simple wish, to join the ranks of the undead, to become a beautiful vampire, the Anne Rice kind of vampire that can just go into a deep sleep when bored with the world.  Doing nothing and not being aware of not doing anything appealed to her. The second fantasy was more complex than just doing nothing for a couple of hundred of years.  A knock on the door would disturb her from her depressing thoughts, when she answered t

Living in West Virginia is a little tough when it comes to natural hair. I was able to go to Charlotte this year and there were so many fabulous ladies there with so many awesome natural styles.  But here in West Virginia the one experience I've had with another African American person was absolutely terrible.  She was still stuck in 1990, talking about perms (when they're really called relaxers).  Natural hair is bad, it's nappy and bad. Even though, I'm sure no one can really tell me why it's bad.   Why because it isn't straight.  Like a white person's? If white people, Latinos, Asians whomever can wear their hair naturally, why can't I? And this is a question I asked myself in September 2010.  And that's when I decided I wasn't going to do things to please other people anymore.  It NEVER works.   So I made some changes and decided to go natural and that was before, I discovered YouTube videos, blogs and other natural hair ca

I recently learned a valuable lesson about trust. Greed. And something that I always knew...you can never beat crazy. Whatever you say to crazy doesn't matter. Crazy will have their own way of distorting the truth. You can't beat crazy. Only get as far away from it as far as you can by any means necessary. I'm just glad I don't have a pet bunny.