You Decide Your Own Level of Involvement

I spend a good amount of time in YouTube.  I remember when it first started and I wish it didn't have commercials, I remember when it didn't have commercials and it's been so long ago I just can't believe what it looks like now.  I should, but I can't.  It's so commercialized, Charlie Brown warned us about these things. Anyway.  There are some Youtubbers I just wait for their next video to come up and I have my notifications turned on for them. 1.   Philip DeFranco . I remember Philip DeFranco during early youtube days, I thought he was interesting, cute, funny.  I usually found myself agreeing with a lot of the stuff that he was saying, not so much on his delivery and I didn't always agree with everything he said but it was new refreshing and like I said funny.  It was him and Shane Dawson videos that I used to watch and for whatever reason, I fell off from Shane and ended up keeping up with PhillyD. His "channel", because youtube di...

I'm not going to do any youtube videos I don't want to face that kind of criticism but I will share what products I like for my natural hair.  I don't see very many videos that (to me) accurately discuss low porosity hair or "that hair" that isn't really discussed when we're talking about natural hair. It's frustrating when you're trying to find your voice and be heard and someone else takes over that sound of yours.  I know white women want to be heard when they're talking about "going natural" but this was a space carved out by black women to discuss their hair. I've seen women go to work like this, with their hair like this and no one says anything.  They say things like, "I just got out of the show and had no time to brush my hair" or whatever the case may be.  If this is your natural hair, great, good for you. But this is what my hair looks like when I step out of the shower and don't have time to ...

I did a big little chop on June 12.  I had so much heat damage and I just had these limp ends.  I cut a bunch of it and now I'm struggling for styles. (I cut all of that damage off) In an effort to throw away as many bottles as I can I'm going to get my routine down to just a few products.  I used to be a product junkie and this is because I could never figure out what worked for my hair so I would spend and spend and spend trying to figure out what works just right. Carol's Daughter Curl Souffle and Aussie conditioner and Carol's Daughter Jamaican Black Castor Oil line seems to give me what I need.  It's so frustrating because my hair gets so dry so easily and we all know that's what breaks it off Not to mention how thick my hair is.  I know some people aren't into hair typing and I get that because it leads to the belief that one product only works well with this type of hair and how it categorizes and separates women with curly and natural hai...

Living in West Virginia is a little tough when it comes to natural hair. I was able to go to Charlotte this year and there were so many fabulous ladies there with so many awesome natural styles.  But here in West Virginia the one experience I've had with another African American person was absolutely terrible.  She was still stuck in 1990, talking about perms (when they're really called relaxers).  Natural hair is bad, it's nappy and bad. Even though, I'm sure no one can really tell me why it's bad.   Why because it isn't straight.  Like a white person's? If white people, Latinos, Asians whomever can wear their hair naturally, why can't I? And this is a question I asked myself in September 2010.  And that's when I decided I wasn't going to do things to please other people anymore.  It NEVER works.   So I made some changes and decided to go natural and that was before, I discovered YouTube videos, blogs and other natural hair ca...